All Consuming : Stephanie

Consumed "Selsun Blue"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 14:29:57 GMT

Selsun Blue

NOT WORTH IT!

A story about "Selsun Blue"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 14:29:14 GMT

Selsun Blue

After a few uses my hair dried up and started falling out. Stopped when I stopped using it. Not worth it.

Good and Stinky (rated 2 stars)

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 23:53:55 GMT

Selsun Blue

That’s right it stinks. Smells like burning rubber to be specific. This smell takes about three days to fade from my hair and an additonal 4 to leave the bathroom. Air freshner helps speed up the process in the bathroom.

The upside is after one use the itching stays gone for almost 2 weeks. I guess its worth it.

Reads like an action movie (rated 5 stars)

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 01:39:00 GMT

Nicolae: The Rise of Antichrist (Left Behind No. 3)

by Tim LaHaye

It was a really good, fast paced book. The first couple of chapter were a little slower but just a little. There was one point were I closed my eyes like you do when your watching a movie but then I remembered it was a book so I read starting reading really fast to see wheat would happen next.

Damn Good movie (rated 5 stars)

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 20:45:02 GMT

Tyler Perry's Why Did I Get Married? (Full Screen Edition)

This is the best movie I’ve seen in a long time.

A story about "Boundries: When to say Yes, How to Say No to take Control of Your Life"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 23:03:26 GMT

Boundries: When to say Yes, How to Say No to take Control of Your Life

by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

I’m only on page 32 and I’ve already learned a few things. This is a great alternative to that other book I was reading last year. Yeech!

A story about "The Book (NLT)"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Sat, 31 May 2008 00:47:46 GMT

The Book (NLT)

I haven’t read the entire book but I’ve read enough to know its good.

Why I gave up consuming "Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Tue, 27 May 2008 02:37:47 GMT

Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith

by Anne Lamott

It wasn’t what I was expected at all. I’m mean, when you pick up a book in the Christian Inspiration section you don’t expect it to be littered with 4 letter words and tales of sex and drugs without much sound of repentance. Well, she did seem to repent the drinking but… I don’t know.

Don’t get me wrong. The half of the book I read was interesting but it was really more of a memoir and that’s not what I was looking for.

Its like if you order pizza and the delivery guy brings ice cream. Ice cream tastes good and all but you had a taste for pizza but it wasn’t delivered.

A question I have about "Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Sun, 25 May 2008 18:14:11 GMT

Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith

by Anne Lamott

Why is this book in the Christian Inspiration section?

I’m Christian. I swear when I get frustrated. Sometimes I even swear under my breath as I’m rushing down the sidewalk to church.

Still, it is very odd to be reading a book I got out of the Christian Inspiration section with this much cussing in it. Her little boy is even swearing in the book! Maybe the memoir section would be a better place for it.

Anyway, I’m almost halfway through the book. It is interesting. Just miscategorized in my opinion.

How "The five love languages of singles" changed my life

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Wed, 21 May 2008 19:45:21 GMT

The five love languages of singles

by Gary Chapman

In my last entry I hoped this book would give me advice on how to communicate my love language without sounding like a psychologist on some 80’s talk show.

It did.

It seems that I fall into a small segment of the population that expresses love in one language but who’s primary choice for receiving it is another.

The test said my primary was words of affirmation and my secondary was quality time. What I discovered through reading the book is that I express love, respect, appreciation, etc primarily through acts of service.

The author explains how to recognize the love languages of family, friends and coworkers. It took me ummm… almost 3 seconds to realize that the love language of most of my relatives is acts of service. Except for my brothers, I believe theirs’ are gifts. Well, I think Robert has a tie between acts of service and gifts. Anyway, whenever I’ve wanted people in my life to feel valued, I’d try to do something nice for them or give them a small gift.

On the other hand, when people try to do things for me it makes me kind of uncomfortable. I could, and a some point will, write a whole blog entry on this subject alone.

In the books it says if you use the wrong love language with someone you might even offend them. They gave an example of your roommate going away for a vacation and they’ve returned to find you’ve cleaned their bathroom. That’s something I’d do. Especially if they came from a place that had room service. Transitioning back into real life can be a little tough after a week of room service and housekeeping. But if acts of service is not their love language, they may think that you are thinking, they aren’t doing a good enough job keeping their space clean. To be honest, if it were me and my bathroom, I would have been quietly thinking the same thing. Weird, huh?

In fact, whenever a coworker, or worse supervisor, offers help I get a little paranoid. Yet if I have free time, I offer help to coworkers and superiors all the time. Just because I like to keep busy. Now, that I think about it, over the years on my job evaluations they say, Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Then I’d cringe a little inside. Hmmmm. I’m nowhere nearly a bad as I used to be but like I said, I’ll save all this for a future blog entry.

The solution for me was handing out more compliments and thank-yous myself. At the end of the night I find at least two people and tell them I enjoyed working with them (if I did). When given help with my work, instead of getting all paranoid I thank them for thinking of me. Then I started getting them back. The other day a nurse turned to me, before the shift even started, and told me how pleasant it was to be able to work with me. It was a nice way to start the night. I actually enjoy going to work again. Its a been a long time.

Edit: I also have to give credit to the friend that I emailed when I first started reading this book. She was the first one to tell me if I wanted to get affirming words I needed to give them and to start thanking and complimenting my new coworkers for a job well done.

Why I want to consume "fudge brownies"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 21:23:57 GMT

fudge brownies

because they’re from Flirt. So I know they were baked with love. :)

A story about "eggrolls"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Sat, 16 Feb 2008 05:49:57 GMT

eggrolls

I’m consuming avacodo eggrolls. They’re yummy.

A review of "The Secret Things of God: Unlocking the Treasures Reserved for You" (rated 3 stars)

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 03:56:44 GMT

The Secret Things of God: Unlocking the Treasures Reserved for You

by Henry Cloud

It was alright.

A review of "Don't Be That Girl: A Guide to Finding the Confident, Rational Girl Within"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 03:21:30 GMT

Don't Be That Girl: A Guide to Finding the Confident, Rational Girl Within

by M.D., Travis L. Stork

I don’t know why I picked this up. I think it was because the cover was so funny. There was nothing in there to help me really. But if anyone has ever referred to you as psycho, drama queen, desperate or clingy, this book may help.

The gentleman who wrote this was guy from The Bachelor: Paris. From the 2 or 3 episodes I saw of that season, he seems just as shallow as I remember. Again and again he felt the need to mention the fact that he is an ER doctor. It was mentioned on nearly every page. This isn’t a health or fitness book. Sometimes it was relevant to what was being discussed but most of the time it came across as bragging and having a passive know-it-all attitude.

There was some good advice in there. A little. I could see some of my younger self in some of those “that girls.” My advice is if you buy that book head straight for the chapter on how to be a good friend. Thats a wonderful chapter. The most useful in the book.

Stephanie

Why I want to consume "The five love languages of singles"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 19:39:21 GMT

The five love languages of singles

by Gary Chapman

Why I want to consume this can be summed up in an email I wrote to a friend. Here it is:

Actually I really did enjoy my last day. Surprisingly it was kind of sad. They threw me a party with a beautiful cake. They brought some vegan foods. Well, the cake wasn’t vegan but that didn’t stop me from having two slices. All week people were saying,” I don’t know what we’re going to do without you.” They’d tell me they’d miss me and how much they had appreciated me. I got tons of hugs. All of this made me sad… and a little mad. THAT WAS ALL I WANTED! Actually that was more than I wanted or needed. I just wanted a thank you at the end of the day. I wanted someone to noticed I killing myself trying to do the work of two people and do it well. You know every job I’ve ever quit with one exception has been because I didn’t feel appreciated. I’ve left jobs for less money because of this.

I’ve been skimming through a book I bought at church. Its called Love Languages for Singles. I took the test in back and my love language was a tie between “words of affirmation” and “quality time”. I scored 9 points out of a possible 12 in each of these but I really think “words of affirmation” is my number one. And so that I don’t keep repeating the same pattern of leaving job after job because I don’t feel appreciated I have to find a way of letting employers and coworkers know this. How though, its not like on my first day I can show up and say, “Hi, I’m Stephanie. My love language is “words of affirmation” If want to keep me I’ll be requiring at least one “thank you” a day and at least two compliments on work a week from somebody. Otherwise, I’ll assume I’m not doing a good job and feel the need to go elsewhere. Its really important for me to feel both useful and appreciated.” Ack! Just rereading that it sounds like something a psychologist would suggest you say on one of those 80’s talk shows. Remember those? I remember watching them and listening to their advice thinking, Who talks like that? Maybe the book will give me some advice on how to communicate this.

Edit: In all fairness, during my last 6 weeks I was hearing more of what I needed and feeling more apprciated but the job search was already underway. I was already interviewing.

A story about "Soy Delicious: Purely Decadent - Coconut Craze"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Thu, 03 Jan 2008 02:26:31 GMT

Soy Delicious: Purely Decadent - Coconut Craze

by Turtle Mountain

This stuff ain’t half bad.

Why I recommend "Scooby Doo Meets Batman"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 18:51:15 GMT

Scooby Doo Meets Batman

There is something so relaxing about this show. Must be a “warm memory from childhood” association thing.

Why it's taking me forever to finish consuming "Celebration of Discipline: The Path to Spiritual Growth"

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 18:42:06 GMT

Celebration of Discipline: The Path to Spiritual Growth

by Richard J. Foster

Its kind of dry reading.

Cute

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Tue, 13 Nov 2007 01:55:13 GMT

Bee Movie

by Simon J. Smith

It’s a cute little family film. Not the most interesting thing I’ve ever seen but I was able to watch it with my mother. The same mother who at age 24, reached over and covered my eyes during that scene in Titanic when Leo was sketching Kate on the couch. Any movie that I can watch with my mom without being uncomfortable or bored to tears gets 5 stars.

This is a guy movie

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 18:52:28 GMT

American Gangster

I realized this the first 5 seconds of the film. Anyone who’s seen the opening scene will know what I’m talking about. The funniest part was right after that scene, two old ladies behind me were like, “Good Lord! This is a man movie. Should we stay?” They did end up staying.

All and all it was a good fairly interesting story but 2 hours and 40 minutes? Was that length really necessary? No.

Best advice on forgivness I've ever recieved.

nobody@allconsuming.net (Stephanie) — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 00:56:22 GMT

Forgiveness: Discover the Power and REality of Authentic Christian Forgiveness

by Gary Inrig

Anyone who has been following my goals since I found the Robot Co-op sites, knows that I ~~have~~ had a lot of questions and issues about forgiveness. This book answered nearly all my questions about forgiveness; even the tough ones.

I learned that there is a HUGE difference between forgiving behavior and condoning it and that trust and forgiveness are two COMPLETELY different things; contrary to what some manipulative people have told me in the past. (I knew that mess didn’t sound right.) I learned about justice vs revenge. Justice is more about discipline and correcting behavior. Revenge on the other hand is a more selfish destructive emotion.

Two years ago I never, never thought I could forgive people. Now that I now what true forgiveness is and what it involves I see that I wasn’t as far off as I had been lead to believe. This is totally do-able.

My favorite line of the book is a quote from another book by Anne Lamott. It says, In fact not forgiving is like drinking rat poison, and waiting for the rat to die.

Forgiveness is going easier than I thought; now that I know the real meaning of it. (sigh of relief) I feel a little lighter now. Let the forgiving begin.